Part of my mission for this year is to be open to meeting new friends and romantic prospects. I’ve had some success with online dating in the past and am open to trying it again when the time is right. I have some legitimate reasons for not pursuing it right now, along with one reason that turned out to be false, and an excuse in any case. My logic was, “All I do is work. I need to make my life more interesting.”
Well . . . I took a hard look at that self-justification. What part of my life is boring? The part where I sometimes get paid to play Scrabble or watch funny science videos? The part where I’m teaching myself American Sign Language in order to communicate with a Deaf client? The part where I walk rescue dogs or serve Sunday night dinner to homesick college students? The part where I work with an 80-year-old missionary who’s writing her memoirs (a project I’m resurrecting and will talk more about as it takes shape)? The part where I have best friends who include a truck driver who lives in Canada but spends at least half the year in the U.S.; an operating engineer who home-schools her kids; an Army wife with tattoos and a sense of humor that’s equal parts Lucille Ball, Brett Butler, and Ellen DeGeneres; and an animal rights activist and sometime yoga instructor? The part where I read kids’ books as a thirtysomething? The part where I often type with one cat on my shoulder and the other one on my feet? The part where I switch my Pandora stations between Bach and Bob Marley, a capella groups and jam bands, Americana and steampunk? The part where I’ve been known to participate in drum circles and open mic nights?
It occurred to me that I lead a very interesting life. I’m well-acquainted with many different emotions, but boredom is rarely one of them. Even if I don’t have a task to do, my mind is always going. Sometimes that’s a bad thing (like at 2 a.m. when I can’t sleep and have a 7:30 a.m. report time next day). Most of the time, it’s asset rather than liability. More pure socializing time would be nice, but at least I always have something to talk about when I meet someone new.
Now to meet men who can bring as much or more to the table.